I walk a fine line with mommy versus fun.
You see pre baby, my life was work, FUN, sleep, repeat.
I had many late nights, wearing something fabulous, with my best girls by my side,
reapplying our red lip gloss, dancing our hearts out as though we owned the place.
Fun is in my blood. I crave it.
And then life happens, and suddenly wearing something “fabulous” involves a top that doesn’t have snot or milk stains.
Sure, girls nights are still in order, but suddenly going out takes on a whole new meaning.
Your 6am wake up call lingers over you, and you wonder just how worth it this is going to be.
Inside though, you have this desire that wants to get out and shake it.
You want to show the world that you still have it…
{That doesn’t go away post baby girls}.
So you go out, but immediately your mommy guilt sets in.
You should be home singing bedtime lullabies, not belting out “Pour Some Sugar on Me” at a karaoke bar.
These days should be behind you. You are after all, a Mommy.
But why can’t mom’s have the best of both worlds? Why can’t there be a healthy balance of mommy vs fun?
Why can’t I still strap on my 6 inch stilettos and have a pre night primp party with my bestie?
I can.
At times, I feel like I am living two lives. When I have Landyn, I am the loving nurturing mother. When I do not, I’m rediscovering my fun spirit. I am quickly learning that it is perfectly healthy to embrace both worlds. It is ok to renew your mommy spirit and be reminded of your youth. It is ok to feel sexy, confident, hopeful and happy. We as women are complex creatures, consiting of many layers that makes us who we are. I am learning to accept every single part of what makes me tick. It’s me smiling, having fun, truly enjoying both worlds from the depths of my soul, that shows me that I am exactly where I am supposed to be. It is ok to be caught between two opposite ends of the spectrum. The energy of fun flows into all areas of our lives making us better mommas, better wives, better friends. Let’s have our cake and eat it too, shall we?
I love this. I think it is SO important to not lose the fun side of yourself when you become a mommy. I’m not a mommy quite yet, but my hubs and I have been having the baby talk A LOT here recently, and one of my main reservations is that I will be giving up that fun side of myself. While I know my baby will most definitely be first and foremost in my life, it’s encouraging to hear people who are doing it now and finding that balance.
THIS post was amazing! I struggle with this all the time…it is so true though you need to have a balance of going out and having fun AND being the mommy / parent / wife! I am so glad you are discovering yourself and the fun side again. doing stuff like that will only make you a better mommy in the long run! xoxo
It is absolutely necessary to have those fun times! We are better mommies when we can take time for ourselves to unwind and have fun with our friends.
I think you are right on Linds! Its because we do have a spirit – a very unique one that is good to renew. For some people that is getting out with girlfriends or having coffee with a dear friend. Guilt is always something moms battle…sometimes its right but often times its not:)
Glad you had some fun!!
you totally deserve it my dear! maybe we should go for a drink instead of {/in addition to} going shopping
im down for having cake and eating it too
We all DEF deserve to have our cake, and eat it too!
There is nothing wrong with being a fun mom and you seem like a wonderful mother. Every mom needs to get out now and then
you are so right, it’s great to be able to have both worlds. You can, and you deserve too! xoxo
I absolutely agree. Just because we’re moms doesn’t mean life has to revolve around Dora the Explorer and Cotton Candy yogurt (oops, that’s my life, not yours I’m talking about).
We still need to have grown up girl fun!
Mama’s don’t tend to talk about this, I appreciate that you did.
Happy to see you having a little fun with the girls!
I absolutely adore this article. I don’t have children yet, but I’ve noticed that our society wants to make ‘motherhood’ the sole identity of women with children (not so with Dads, I’ve noticed). We are all such complex people, and you still have needs and desires outside of caring for & loving your child! I hope you continue to embrace all the facets of yourself, you’re setting a great example
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