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As a result of my divorce, will I be going back to my maiden name “Roberts”, and will my blog name be changed as well?
Yes and No.
To me, I have always been Lindsay Nicole Roberts.
It’s on my birth certificate.
It’s my identity.
A marriage may have changed that legally, but I always knew what defined me.
Even 3 years after marriage, I still had trouble refering to myself as Lindsay Lee.
{enter the blank stares and confusion here}
I’ll never forgot the day I went to social security to make the change (and boy was that a daunting task).
I truly felt like a part of me died. CRAZY, I know, but so very symbolic of where I was at in my decision.
I spent 25 years as Lindsay Roberts. I had been writing that name since I was in kindergarden. I made a name for myself. It’s who I am.
For a brief moment in time I thought about keeping “Lee” for Landyn’s sake, but then it hit me that I’d be living a false identity. I am not a Lee.
I briefly married into the name, and there is nothing I choose to hold onto from that chapter of my life.
A beautiful daughter came out of it, and it’s perfectly ok for Landyn and I to have two different last names. I feel this is a significant step in the recovery and acceptance of my divorce. I choose to get back to my roots.
Now, for the blog.
Lee La La will remain the same. I have gone back and forth with the matter and have decided that this little space right here needs to remain consistant. I have created a name for myself and that should remain in tact. To me, Lee La La is a combination of Landyn and I both. I am able to see beyond my ex’s last name. My parents middle names are both Lee. My daughter is a Lee. I’ve created a business with Lee.
I only see beautiful things.
My legal name change is in the works, so over the next few months you will begin to see that. If you follow my personal face book page, you may have noticed I already go by Lindsay Roberts. That required a simple edit and save. The rest, is a tad more complicated.
I hope this clears up some confusion.
xo
As your friend…I say Lindsay Roberts, ROCKS!!
I still haven’t changed my name and I got married a year and a half ago- IF I change it, it will be hyphenated. Ps you are a super strong inspiring mamma!
I think that’s a good decision. You need to do what’s right for you.
When I changed my last name, the SS office pissed me off and I ended up getting rid of middle and maiden name! I’ve regretted it ever since because I am very proud of Scotch-Irish heritage (which is very obvious in my maiden name). Now that Josh and I are divorcing, I do plan to change it back. But since we’re still close friends, I would probably hang onto his last name if we had children, or perhaps hyphenate. I think in our situation though, since we’re still close, me keeping his name would be strange for the both of us and might be damaging to our friendship.
Sorry, I kind of went off blabbing there… :>
I thOnl it’s nice your going backto your roots! I kept my maiden name as my middle name:)
Hey Lindsey. I didn’t have such a hard time doing my name change. for some reason, SS wasn’t busy that day and it all happened so quickly. There are some days, when I wish I had my family name and not my Biological fathers last name. He wasn’t around for me. Side note here. This is not the same man I call daddy in my blog. He was my stepfather from when I was 6 months old. He is my true father. And I miss him dearly, I cant believe tomorrow will be two months since he died. If I ever get divorced, Im going with the family name, my mothers and sisters name. I would go with my roots too. There is nothing in world wrong with that. I think its the right thing to do. You will no longer be identified as a Lee. You will be Roberts again. And that is who you truly are.
Good for you to do what is right for you!! I took almost 3 years to change my name, and now that I’ve lost my husband I kind of wish I never had. I loved him, but now I have no connection to his family any more and it’s odd having a name of a family that I don’t really belong to. But, changing my name back would be a lot of work. In MN you have to go before a judge I think to get your name changed. Even back to one that used to belong to me!!
Work it momma!
you do whatcha got to do girl. congrats on being strong!
You go girl!
Ok, so people have really been asking?! #NOSEY!
I’ve been married for almost 3 years, and I still haven’t legally changed my name! LOL It’s quite a task, especially when you’ve lived with and LOVED your last name for so long.
OF COURSE it’s ok to have a different last name than Landyn!
good for you! i think you’re making the perfect decision
I only kept my married (from previous marriage) name because I didn’t feel like going through all the financial/legal hassle of changing my name again. BUT, socially, I go my husband’s last name. One of these days I’ll change over for real. Plus I hear it’s easier to change your name these days. However, Adam and I don’t even have a copy of our marriage certificate, so….
I think you’re making the right decision.
Hello Lindsey, I love your story and the strength and confidence + inspiration you share as a women and mother. What a great way to show your daughter that you truly know who you are
Wishing you many blessings in this new chapter.